I wrote, “There's No Sex In Golf,” to address something that seems to be missing from golf, at least for me. I'm talking about the joy of playing one of the greatest games in the world.
In exploring this I discovered, often the things preventing us from playing better golf, have little to do with golf and everything to do with us. For example,

• if you are unwilling to have lots of money in your life, then you can never allow you to become a successful, prize-winning professional. Golf rewards those who win, with professionals earning considerable prize money.
• if you are trying to be Mr. Nice-Guy with your playing partners, then you are unlikely to be willing to excel at golf and beat them hands-down in club competition.

I read a New York Times article, reporting on a meeting of golf leaders discussing the declining numbers of people engaging in golf. They decided it was due to, “... changing family dynamics.” My point of view is that people are not enjoying golf as much as they used to. I  have observed that large numbers of golfers suffer-golf and function from frustration or apathy on the course. Even at club level, the game of golf has been manipulated into a competition where 99% of golfers lose, most of the time. I ask, at what point is a player beaten into giving-up on what was the seductively packaged promise of leisure, relaxation and fun?

For those seeking to improve, but having small success with conventional teachings, this book provides unconventional tools. Simple tools that work dynamically when they are used. In addition, I offer different points of view about nearly every area of golf, that I hope will provide golfers with some clarity, new possibilities and greater choice.

I am working on a new book entitled, “Golf. Beyond The Mental Game,” which  addresses specific topics such as, winning a competition, having total swing-awareness, crafting a winning score and much more.

Yours in enjoyable golf,
Stephen Outram

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Would you be willing to consider the possibility that you can generate something with golf far beyond anything you’ve ever imagined before? To do that you have to look at golf and you, from a totally new space and stop buying into everyone else's definition of what your golf should be like. What would you truly like your golfing reality to be like?

There’s No Sex In Golf! asks you to look at you. The game of golf is just fine. It’s you that needs to change before you can generate what you desire with golf. Are you willing to do that; change something ... everything?

Coming to clarity on what’s real in golf will assist in unlocking you from the fixed place you currently function from. Do you realise the majority of players compete to lose at golf; that they play handicapped; that they create from limitation rather than from greatness; that the joy of the game has been beaten out of them. And for many, golf has become a game of chance, rather than one of adventure and possibility?

Review by Shannon Yarbrough of The LL Book Review

An Excerpt ...

In the introduction, Stephen mentions that a few years ago he wanted to walk away from golf.  His own words really stuck out at me as something that is very true for any game, or for any part of our life where we have exhausted on means of pleasure or triumph.

"… we give up on something when it is no longer working for us and we have absolutely no idea what else to do. Having tried everything I could think of, I simply had no choice but to walk away. Did I really have no choice, or was I just unaware of any other possibility?"

We all know the answer to his question, and just a few pages later Outram brings his concept home with the notion of replacing the word “golf” with the word “life” throughout his book.  His ideas for improvement work both ways. He asks, "What would you like your golfing realty to be like, and what else is truly possible for you with golf?"

Outram then presents the game itself, divided into two sections: child’s games and adult games and their differences with a sincere focus on winning and losing. He notes the majority of golf players lose at the game. And as we all know, winning or losing is not an indication of how we played the game.  And so is life. There are rules, standards, judgements, presentation, and even cheating both in the game and at life.  We all know the outcomes of the latter. Outram points out that the fun of it is breaking the rules and getting away with it. There’s an even a whole chapter devoted to Winning & Losing, and the different types of golfers there are.

To read the full-review, Review 18: There’s No Sex in Golf by Stephen Outram

Reader's Comments

I liked the book. It looked at some stuff that didn’t have much to do with golf, but I could see how it would effect my game. Different. Interesting.
Steve Carter. USA

This is a great book whether you are a golf fan or not, but esp if you are a golf fan! The idea of replacing the word golf with life is right on and some great insights to be had. I also never looked at the game as sexy…now I am thinking I may sign up for some lessons… golf that is!
Tabitha. USA

I found the limiting points of view very familiar. I have battled those in the past and have over come them, but I am surrounded by those who hold them dear.
LK Gardner-Griffie

You have just changed all of the points of view I had about golf. Let’s go play!
John Sterling Carter. USA

I asked the ball to go long and straight … and it did, for 15 holes! That was exciting.
Trevor Outram. Australia